The life lesson blogging has taught me

Recently I have seen many posts floating around the internet all tackling one particular subject: what blogging has taught the blogger. If you are dedicated to blogging it surely has changed your life in some way. Blogging is a passion, a great hobby and definitely a challenge as well. And with a challenge usually comes a process of learning so it’s actually inevitable to be a blogger without learning a thing or two on the journey.
I think most would agree the blogging has taught us how to be patient, has probably improved our style of writing and has maybe even revealed something about us we didn’t know. In this post I want to focus on an particular and very important life lesson that blogging has taught me over time. A lesson that I forgot about when I originally thought about this subject but that might actually be the most crucial one of all. So what has blogging taught me? It has taught me to build on what is already there instead of throwing in the towel.

People say that the hardest thing about blogging is surviving the first few months. New bloggers often start out feeling really inspired, literally bursting with ideas but after 10 blog posts this feeling fades and they get frustrated with their blog and often shut it down again. I can understand this very well as I was in the same spot a few years ago. I started a blog, mainly writing about fashion and my adventures in Devon and after a few posts I started lacking inspiration and I decided that my life just wasn’t interesting enough to keep a blog. I now realise that I couldn’t have been further from the truth, life is as interesting as you make it and there is always something to talk about, whether that’s about your life or about a controversial topic of society. But anyway, back then I stopped blogging and sadly I deleted my blog. At the age of 18 I made a second attempt and this time I managed to stick to it. I think that as a blogger, we all experience frustrations. I do not know a person who always is a 100 % happy with his/her blog content and schedule and that’s perfectly okay. No, actually it is more than just okay, it is great because it enables change and doubts often lead to creativity and new paths. The moment we start questioning our work we also give ourselves the chance of improvement. So blogging is not about never experiencing frustrations, it is about how we deal with them.
Blogging as a perfectionist can be hard. We are striving to create the perfect post, to maintain the perfect blog and to always come up with some great and original ideas. I am just going to take a deep breath and say it: is is impossible to be the perfect blogger. We are humans and things like writer’s block and a lack of creativity are annoying, but they are natural. No one can be creative 24/7, it is simply impossible. And once we accept that, we can feel better about blogging and maintain a more realistic approach. I remember looking at my blog when I was 15 and getting really upset – I wasn’t too happy about the content, the style of writing let alone the quality of my pictures. And instead of working on it, I gave up. Nowadays I still have similar feelings from time to time but I see them as a chance to better myself and become a better writer. I have to admit, I sometimes thought about deleting old blog posts but I quickly realised it wouldn’t do any good. In the end my blog serves as a diary, it reflects my personality and my development as a person. When I first started blogging I struggled to find my personal style of writing just like I struggled to find my ‘niche’ and ended up writing posts I wasn’t truly passionate about. But looking back, I know I needed to write those to find out what I truly wanted. So yes, I am proud of these posts. They might not be as ‘perfect as I’d like them to be’ but they are part of a journey and helped me become the blogger I am today.
You can’t delete your past. It is there and will always be part of you. What you can choose is how you deal with it. In the best case you can stand up for it and learn from it. Instead of running away you can build on the foundation that is already there. When asked for blogging advice, bloggers often say ‘just start a blog and stick to it’. And I can only agree with that, from the bottom of my heart. But if it is the best advice for blogging, isn’t it the best advice for life as well? I think so. If we truly want something, we have to stick to it and work for it, just like we do with our blogs. Instead of getting frustrated with everything we haven’t reached we should appreciate our foundation and build upon it. Just like every blog post is a chance to improve our blog, every day is a chance to improve our lives. If we are unhappy with our content or our website, we change its layout or start taking things into a different direction. But we don’t just press the ‘delete blog’ button. So maybe we should do the same things in real life. Instead of giving up on a project, we should see our mistakes as an opportunity of improvement. Instead of doubting ourselves, we should look at the past, see all the things we have overcome and use these experiences on our journey towards happiness. Sometimes, we need to delete a ‘feature’ from our lives, need to improve the html, maybe even cut out a ‘follower’ but we should keep our focus on our goals and build on our past for a better future.

What has blogging taught you? x

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  • Great post, Gemma x
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  • Thank you! x

  • Ah so true that blogging is a learning process – it's taught me so much but mainly just who I really am as a person!
    Amy xx
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  • I definitely agree with that! xx

  • I love this, Mira. Blogging has taught me a lot of things and I couldn't be happier that I started a blog last year. I am a perfectionist myself and I know the struggle when it comes to thinking of ideas or writing posts. I always keep thinking that it is not enough, that it isn't as good and it isn't as original as it could be and it is driving me insane. I don't want to post 'wishlists' or tag posts as I think that they aren't very original and my readers might not enjoy them. But I am trying to help myself understand that sometimes less is okay too and all my posts don't need to be perfect πŸ™‚

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

  • Thank you, Leta, I'm glad you like it! Me too, it wasn't easy to start but sticking to it definitely pays off and blogging has brought so much happiness into me life. That is exactly what I'm thinking, I don't want to do these kind of posts but it's hard to be original all the time. xx

  • What a great post to read, blogging has taught me so many wonderful things but the one that I am most grateful for is being more organized!
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  • Kay

    This is such a lovely, insightful post! Personally, I feel that a lot of bloggers delete their blogs after a few months not only because they're not happy with the content, but more because they haven't build an audience the expected to. A lot of people except overnight blogging success when the truth is, it takes time – Rome wasn't build in a day! <3 I think dedication and self-discipline are key here, and like you said, accepting what you already have and building on that. I never considered deleting my blog because whilst it's far from perfect, I'm quite happy with it and would never just abandon the whole thing. Like you said, introducing new content and changing your layout are both fab ways of 'refreshing' your blog a little. πŸ™‚ Thanks for sharing, darling! Kisses. x

    Kay
    http://www.shoesandglitter.com/

  • What a lovely, inspiring post. I deleted all of my old social media accounts from when I was younger (e.g YouTube and Flickr) and whilst they were not necessarily a blog, I do regret deleting them. I always blog about what I want to blog about and try to ignore the pressures of doing the "perfect" post to gain followers; that's what makes me most happy about my blog πŸ™‚ xo

    Emily | emsalice.com

  • Really nice! Hope get a chance to read my latest post. Have a great day.

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  • Thank you very much! I get that, because they all are a souvenir in a way. That's an amazing attitude, I think we should all do that. πŸ˜‰ xx

  • That is definitely something I learnt too although I think there is still room for improvement haha. xx

  • Thank you, that honestly means a lot! And I think you're right, a lot of people expect success overnight or they are in it for the 'wrong reasons' – I also think that it's way important to build a good audience instead of just any kind of audience. πŸ˜‰ Yes, there are many ways to change our blogs and your blog is actually not that far from perfect. πŸ˜‰ xx

  • blogging as a perfectionist is so utterly hard. loved reading this post.

    Stefanie | Casualllyawkward | Bloglovin'

  • I love blogging and starting a blog was probably the best decision I've ever made! It's been a year since I've started blogging and I honestly would never look back. My first few posts weren't really me and I think I've gradually started to open up a bit more and be a little more casual and 'me' in my posts!
    Aleeha xXx
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  • It is indeed! x

  • That's amazing, I would say the same about blogging and I also think that my blog has slowly become more 'me'. xx

  • Amazing post my dear <33 I love your pallete from Naked πŸ™‚
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  • Thank you! Haha so do I! xx

  • This was a very inspiring post. A blog is always a work in progress and it's important to recognize that no blogger is perfect, as you mentioned. There is always room for growth. Thanks for sharing this!

    Eden | Mint Notion

  • This was truly one of the best posts I have read about what blogging had taught me!! "If we truly want something, we have to stick to it and work for it" – I couldn't agree more with this. I started my blog a couple of months back and I can totally feel the frustration of so many things – content not good enough, noone is reading it, does anyone even care and what not!! As you said, it's all about sticking out and not being too harsh on yourself. Trying to be perfect and looking at the numbers will definitely lead to things not working out in the longer run. Thank you so much for this honest piece! Have a great week, Mira πŸ™‚

    Monika | http://www.palateforstyle.com

  • Great post! I enjoyed the read!
    Xoxo,
    Love from http://www.trangscorner.com {a lifestyle, fashion, beauty, and food blog}

  • Thank you, that means a lot! Exactly, there is always room for growth and that might be my favourite thing about blogging. x

  • It makes me really happy to hear that you liked it! I think 99 % of us will experience this frustration, I didn't have an audience for several months and I got pretty frustrated as well. But yes, it's all about sticking to it and working for it, in the end it will pay off. Thank, you too! πŸ™‚ xx

  • Such a lovely post! Blogging really does teach a lot of things πŸ™‚ x
    yasminanicole

  • What blogging has taught me is that success does not come without hard work and dedication. I wanted to start a blog years ago but finally decided to do last year. I am very happy and I am doing this as a hobby and at the same time I love that I get to interact with other bloggers/lovely girls in this great community. Thanks for sharing this lovely post πŸ™‚

    Yiota
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  • Thank you! xx

  • Thank you! xx

  • Me too, I am very happy to be part of the community! And that is definitely what blogging has taught me, you really need to stick to it and be patient! xx

  • Staying motivated with blogging is too hard and I find it tough too so many times!! This post hits tge right notes with me!!
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  • I'm glad you liked it and I agree, this is the biggest challenge in terms of blogging! xx

  • This is such a lovely post!
    I've been blogging on and off almost 3 years but the one thing I find consistently hard is trying not to compare myself with other bloggers. I need to start remembering more often that we all have different lives and different schedules!

    Staying motivated is also a big one! It's easy to get disheartened when a post doesn't receive as much traffic as you think it deserves.

    xxx
    Claire
    http://www.theclairediary.co.uk

  • Thank you! That's very true, it's hard to look past the disappointment and just believe in what you've written. And yes, we all got different lives and it's completely okay to take breaks with blogging. xx

  • Wow, that is a great point. And it can be used in other areas of achievement too. Thank you for this. Your photography now is very beautiful.

    xxoBeka – http://www.bekaellen.com

  • Thank you and you're right, this applies to everything in life. xx

  • Such an Inspiring post to read , blogging does teach us a lot of skills and life lessons which we can use daily. I think what blogging has taught me the most is that if you have a passion then stick with it, even if people don't recognise your work as long as you are happy that's all that matters. I love reading your deeper posts they are so inspiring πŸ™‚ xx

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  • Thank you so much Heather, that honestly means a lot! And I couldn't agree more with that, we have to blog for ourselves and not for others or for getting recognised. xx

  • Brilliant post πŸ™‚ Blogging taught me that it's okay to be rubbish and not know what you're doing because you'll keep improving the more you work at it πŸ™‚ xx

    Holly ∣ Closingwinter

  • It’s crazy to me that you would look at your blog and maybe not be entirely happy, cause the way you approach your blog is honestly one of my favourites (and the fact that you look at controversial topics in society is something that makes me so happy). I recently was reading through some old blog posts and had similar feelings of wow, that’s not that great, I want to delete it – but I didn’t for exactly for the same reason you didn’t, it reflects our development and growth – and that’s such a beautiful thing.

    Blogging has taught me to just be as authentically myself as I can be and don’t worry if that’s not 100% super professional, or artsy, all the time – even though I still struggle with those thoughts on occasion.

    Raashi
    reflectionswithraa.blogspot.com.au