21 things I would tell my 12-year-old self

As you might know I recently turned 21. Although I am using the term ‘recently’ quite loosely in that context. The last weeks were filled with a crazy amount of work and deadlines but now that my semester has well, unofficially finished, I finally have time to blog. And since I turned 21, I wanted to do a post in typical blogger fashion. But instead of listing 21 things I have learned in 21 years, I thought I would twist the numbers and write about 21 things I would tell my 12-year-old self. So if you’re 12, you might actually learn a thing or two – I could have certainly needed that advice back then. And if you’re my age you probably know what I’m taking about. Anyway, I hope you enjoy reading this post! x

 

  1. It is okay to be different. Stop wishing that you were more like the others in your class and just be yourself, even though it can be hard at times – being unique is beautiful and we should celebrate our differences.
  2. It is okay to fail. You might not realise this at the time, but failure is an important part of life – it just comes with the whole package. And in the end, it is not about failing but about having the strength and the courage to stand up again.
  3. Please stop plucking your eyebrows. They will never grow back properly (sigh).
  4. Fashion is an amazing chance to express yourself. Be bold and wear exactly what you want, even if that means everyone at school telling you that you look overdressed. Also, you can wear whatever you want – don’t worry about clothes making you look younger or smaller – go and rock your overall and your culottes!
  5. Take care of yourself – do more things that make you happy and although going to bed at 1am seems fun at the time, you do need more than 5 hours of sleep.
  6. Stand up for yourself. Your wellbeing and your opinion matters. We all have a voice that is worth to be heard and a story worth to be listened to.
  7. Check whether your foundation makes you look orange before leaving the house.
  8. You are the only person that can determine your self-worth. Not anyone else. Or anything else. Self love might be the biggest challenge you’ll face but just keep in mind that beauty concepts are shaped by the media and unrealistic standards and that we are all worthy of love, even if we make mistakes or go through a difficult time.
  9. Do something because you want to do it, not because everyone else is doing it. If you don’t feel like going to the club on a Friday, ask your best friend to stay in and have a movie night instead. Or have a movie night by yourself.
  10. Not all friendships are meant to last. And not all friends will turn out to be your true friends – don’t let them blame you for trying to be a good friend and don’t surround yourself with people who make you feel worse – it is not worth it. Sometimes ending things is for the better, even though it hurts.
  11. Go running more often – exercise makes you feel a lot better.
  12. Always listen before you judge. Just like Atticus said, we have to step into someone’s shoes and walk around in them before we can form an opinion. You don’t know what a person is going through so be kind to everyone and don’t take everything personal.
  13. Stand up for others. If you see something going wrong, say something and don’t just watch. Don’t be a quiet observer.
  14. Mental illness isn’t something to be ashamed of.
  15. Talk. Opening up to someone is important and it will be one of the biggest challenges you’ll face because you’re too scared to talk about yourself. But you don’t have to be, it is okay to be vulnerable and it is okay not to be okay at times.
  16. Pay more attention to what you’re eating. Nourishing your body is really important and there is definitely some truth to the saying ‘You are what you eat’. Don’t try to diet but stick to plant-based food and you’re body will have never felt better.
  17. Try new hobbies. There are so many amazing opportunities out there, try stepping out of your comfort zone sometimes. Why not try Krav Maga or do a cooking class? The world is your oyster.
  18. Things can and will get better. Yes, it sounds cliché but trust me, it is true. Never lose hope, no matter how dark things might look. Life holds many amazing opportunities – there are so many amazing places to travel, so many interesting people to meet, so many fun things to do – you just have to make the first step.
  19. Life doesn’t always go according to plan and although a change of path can be scary at first, it can turn out to be the thing that has ever happened. Trust your gut and do what feels right for you. The easiest way isn’t always the best.
  20. Don’t just think about starting a blog, do it. There is a pretty amazing community out there.
  21. Last but not least, my final piece of advice: just live. It is hard to truly live in the present but it’s the best thing you can do. Don’t dwell on the past and stop worrying so much about the future. You can’t control everything and it is time to let things go and trust that life will find its way.

What is the one piece of advice you would give your 12-year-old self? xx